Sometimes we find ourselves attached to people who are no longer in our lives. Or we can’t stop thinking about situations that happened in the past. Seeing a therapist to help with these issues can be helpful. As witches, we can also use our magick to further our progress.
I created this meditation/ ritual for a friend who said she needed some assistance reducing the hold some of her family has on her. You can do this as many times as you like. In fact, you may need to do this more than once to fully remove some of the attachments.
I prefer this method over the candle method for a number of reasons. One, it’s safer. No need to worry about burning your place down. Two, it has an internal focus, putting the power in your hands. The candles are external and it can feel like things such as wind can affect them.
I recommend reading this fully before moving on to the ritual so you know what the steps are. Some people will even record themselves reading this and then following along to that.
Cord Cutting Ritual
Use incense or candles that you feel will help you with this process. You can even do a smoke cleansing to set the space. If you want to create a circle, now is the time to do so. Feel free to invoke any deities, guides, or energies to assist you with this process.
Find a comfortable position. This can be seated on the floor or in a chair. Make sure this is somewhere you can sit for an extended amount of time, not just a couple of minutes. Let your body wiggle a little to let go of some of your excess energy.
Close your eyes. Take a few deep breaths to fully arrive in your space.
I like to count down to get to my meditative state, a process I learned through the Temple of Witchcraft. My version requires counting down from 12 to 1 and then 13 to 1. You can do whatever feels comfortable to you.
Once you are in your meditative state, take note of all the various cords attached to your body. Some may be small, some may be big. They might be varying colors. They might even be more than cords, such as chains. You can gently play with them, gathering information and sensations, possibly determining who or when/where they are connected to.
After you’ve done this, take one of the cords that you know you want to remove in one hand, and take your cutting implement (athame, scissors, energy hand), and cut the cord. Depending on how thick the cord is, and what it’s made of, will determine how long it takes to cut.
Once you’ve cut it, pause and take stock of how you now feel. Do you feel any different? Maybe lighter or heavier. Maybe lopsided. Are you tired or energized? If you still feel well enough, continue on.
Using the same method, slowly work through the different cords you are ready to cut. After you cut each one, take some time to notice how you feel.
Also, don’t feel like you can do anything wrong. If you accidentally cut the wrong one, you simply need to re-establish that connection. It’s easy enough to do by calling the person or having a meal with them. Stronger connections will be easier to re-establish. This also means that you’ll want to be more vigilant and stronger with your boundaries for those ones you truly meant to cut.
Once you feel complete at this time, take a look at your aura. Do you see any holes? These might have been created by the cords, which are no longer there. Or they could have been created some other way. Take some time to plug up those holes using your energy, or energy from the Earth. This will help you with maintaining your boundaries later. It’s also something you will likely have to continually work on.
When you are done with this, come back out of your meditative state. If you counted down before, count back up. Thank anyone who assisted you with this process, and release any energies you invited in.
Finally, take a little time to eat and/or drink something. Energy work can be either tiring or energizing. The food and/or drink will help you neutralize that.
I hope this helps you as much as it helped my friend. Let me know how it goes?